More often than not, you’ll find yourself in a disagreement with your roommate. While not every disagreement will end in a full-blown fight, there may be times when it will. The only thing you can do is to prepare yourself for those times and to be ready for anything.
For example, say your roommate has been having their significant other over to your place too much. When you go to talk to them about it, they get defensive and the issue never gets resolved. Let’s say that after that point it gets very awkward around your place and you end up leaving each other notes, ignoring one another, and/or just not speaking. What would you have to do?
In every case, you should always try to talk with your roommate again. Avoid leaving passive aggressive notes for one another (you can see why that might not work on www.passiveaggressivenotes.com) and giving them the silent treatment. It’s time to act like adults; you’re in college (or maybe out of college, depending on who’s reading this). Take some time and plan out what you’re going to say to them. Focus on how their actions make you feel and avoid making it about defects in their personality.
You also want to be sure to talk to them when you are calm and levelheaded; they won’t listen to you if you scream at them. Be sure to detail your feelings, but also be sure to listen to what they have to say. No matter what, try hard not to take things too personally or become too defensive; this only makes matters worse. Instead, try to think logically about what they have to say; this means being able to criticize yourself. What could you be doing to upset them?
If talking with them doesn’t seem to work and it only seems to make things worse, the only thing you can really do from there is to be civil to one another. Maintain your consideration and respect for one another. Being roommates doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be friends, or that you even have to like each other; just as long as you respect one another and are considerate, your relationship (or lack-there-of) can work.
While fighting with your roommate can be traumatic, it happens to a lot of people. The only thing you can do is prepare yourself for those scenarios when it doesn’t work, and sometimes you do just have to concede that you don’t see eye-to-eye or that you just don’t get along. Although it stinks when you and your roommate don’t get along, it is better that you both can at least come to an understanding and share mutual respect for one another and your space.
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